What is a home?
Is it a house or place you can roam?
Is home just a place where you live?
Is home just a brick and mortar?
Home is a haven.
Home is a safe place.
Home is a sanctuary.
Home is a place where you will never have to be wary, tired or dread.
Home is extraordinary.
Home is like a friend made of bricks and mortar.
Home is where you feel safe.
My son wrote this poem for a project at school and when I read it, the line that got to me was “Home is a sanctuary”. Home is where you have flaws, but those flaws make you, home is where you are not perfect but appreciated. Home is the only place for me where I can be myself without fear of judgement. Home is where I can speak my mind without ridicule, home is indeed a sanctuary.
And Allah has made for you in your homes, an abode …[Surah al-Nahl:80]
The family and the family ties is an essential foundation in Islam, the Quran and the Sunnah provide the backbone of a happy home. It is believed that a comfortable home produces a pleasant, grounded person who contributes to the wellbeing of his or her society. An unhappy home, on the other hand, can lead to the corruption of the family unit (the home) resulting to a corrupt society.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “The safety of a man at times of fitnah is in his staying home”.
The need for us to build a home is rooted in Islam, Almighty Allah says
“O you who believe! Protect yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed), fierce and stern angels, who disobey not the commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded. (Surah Tahrim:6).
We live in a world where we fear the ills of our society, we fear the immorality we see in our community, we scream at the injustice and oppression in our countries but what about the dangers in our homes? We are exposed to physical and mental abuse in our homes. For some, their home is not a sanctuary while for some of us, our haven is outside (in the world we have been told to shield ourselves from).
Prophet (SAW) said “Allah will ask every shepherd (or responsible person) about his flock (those for whom he was responsible), whether he took care of it or neglected it until he asks a man about his household.
Whether it is a house built with gold or clay, be it a mansion or a mud hut, the walls of a house does not make it a home. Home is where the heart is comfortable . The responsibility to build a healthy, joyous and a happy family is the duty of all. We put the ownership of the home on one party but a true cohesive home requires the strengths and weaknesses of all that dwells in it.