Empowerment is seen as the solution to many women’s problems but the truth is a woman can’t be fully empowered, if her mind is not empowered. This is why we have high earning women staying in abusive marriages and a self sustained lady in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t value her, abuses and cheats on her. The mind empowerment I’m talking about here is none other than self-esteem. Majority of the womenfolk have low self-esteem and it has been so since time immemorial. It is not really our fault but how we were raised but now we know better.

What exactly is this self-esteem?
Self-esteem in its simplest meaning is how you see yourself, how much you appreciate and love yourself.

  • Do you see yourself as someone that doesn’t deserve happiness?
  • Do you feel you won’t get a better opportunity or man than the present one (the man that makes you unhappy)?
  • Do you always feel like you’re not good enough and worthless?
  • Do you always feel like you’re destined to suffer and can never make it in life?
  • Do you stop being you, displease yourself to satisfy others and make them like you?
  • Do you believe all the negativity being said about you by family and friends, even though you know you it is not true?
  • Are you unable to make decisions and believe other people will make better decisions than you?
  • Do you blame yourself unfairly for what is not your fault and what is beyond your power?
  • Do you always feel you’re not beautiful enough and see faults in the creation of your being?

If your answers to above question gets a “YES” then, You have a low self-esteem. Don’t be scared, don’t feel bad, it is normal. Majority of the people you see today with good self-esteem have once been in your shoes but took action to regain the self-esteem they never had.

Be a Confident Woman

How do you improve your self-esteem?

  • You start by moving closer to Allah. Appreciate his work on you because Allah makes no mistakes, all his creations are beautiful.
  • Think of “what and who” is affecting your self-esteem.
  • Then always have it in your mind that you deserve the best because Allah loves you and some disappointments are blessings in disguise.
  • Connect with people that loves and appreciate you for who you are and distance yourself from negative people.
  • Set a challenge or goal and achieve it.
  • Learn to be assertive.
  • Focus on the best and positive things about you.
  • Take good care of yourself.

Question: Can a woman truly be empowered if her mind is not empowered?

Asalam aleikum

©muslimahsvoice

3 COMMENTS

  1. This beautiful especially now when women are made to look half naked in order to attract men. Women are brought so low in the name of modernity. I wonder if ladies enjoy their live in this modern times.

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